We call it “hurry sickness”—a relentless, anxious need to do more, be more, accomplish more, squeeze one more thing in before the day is done. It’s not an actual medical diagnosis, but it might as well be. Because hurry sickness is a slow, quiet killer.
It steals your presence.
It steals your peace.
And over time, it steals your life.
At Robertson + Easterling, we’ve sat across from countless men and women unraveling the aftermath of a disconnected marriage. And while infidelity, control, addiction, or finances may be what brings people to our offices, we often discover something even more insidious at the root: the unchecked pace of modern life.
When Busy Becomes a Badge
In today’s world, busyness is a form of status. If your calendar’s full, your value must be high. If you’re constantly in motion, you must be doing something important.
But there’s a hidden cost.
And she feels it.
She used to be playful. She used to read books. She used to have slow Saturday mornings with pancakes and music in the kitchen. Now she juggles kids, emails, errands, endless appointments. She’s so productive that she’s almost disappeared.
He doesn’t remember the last time they sat on the porch without their phones. The last time they had a conversation that wasn’t about logistics. The last time they touched without one of them being half-distracted.
The Lie of Efficiency
Hurry sickness tells you if you could just move a little faster, try a little harder, get a little more done—you’d finally feel okay. But you won’t.
Because joy doesn’t live in the fast lane.
Peace doesn’t show up when you cross the last thing off your list.
And intimacy isn’t built in a rush.
Presence Is the Antidote
Here’s the truth: The most important moments in your life won’t be scheduled on your calendar. They’ll happen in between—the lazy laughs, the inside jokes, the quiet glances, the long dinners, the unhurried conversations.
When you are always in a hurry, you miss the miracle of the present moment.
You miss your spouse.
You miss your kids.
You miss yourself.
Let’s Talk
At R+E, we don’t just talk about legal strategy. We talk about the kind of life you want to build—whether it’s in the ruins of a broken relationship or in the quiet courage of repairing one. If you’re tired of chasing something you can’t name, if hurry has robbed you of connection and clarity, let’s start a different kind of conversation.
It’s not too late to slow down and come back to what matters.
